I'd completely forgotten about the kibbutzim. Would their time together before Oskar wakes up sexually be enough to bring this effect about?metoo wrote:This is an interesting take. The effect is hard-wired into our brains, by evolution, so sexual interest is just turned off. Maybe the period would be long enough for this effect to come into action.PeteMork wrote:But I think it's potentially much more complicated than that. For example, studies have shown that children brought up in close proximity to one another (such as in a family) generally have no sexual attraction to one another at all. Kind of a ‘brother-sister’ effect.
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Both Oskar and Eli are pre-pubescent and Oskar could conceivably remain so for perhaps another year, especially if he leaves society with all its pressures behind and runs off with Eli. During that time, their relationship could quite easily slip into one of this type.
I don't know, but still can't get the passages in the novel out of my head, particularly the ones where Oskar spends much time and effort wrapping himself around the idea that his girlfriend (and not, mind you, his "friend") isn't a girl. He spent that time not rejecting her, but trying to adjust himself to the role he imagines he'd wind up filling by staying with her. But maybe that's just Oskar trying to fit himself into some pre-existing role, his preoccupation with her gender really just his trying to conform to the general (and generally unstated) expectation that he grow up, get a wife, start having kids, etc., without actually understanding what all this role entails.
This discussion covered quite a bit more field than is actually warranted by the question your fiction (and mine) actually looks into. In mine, it isn't a question that Oskar would develop sexually, and it isn't a question he'd look towards Eli in this vein, because my Oskar wouldn't want to be with anybody else. This whole thread has given me quite a bit to ponder, and looking towards Eli with sexual interest no longer seems inevitable, but Oskar will develop sexual interest that probably wants to be answered one way or another.
The crux of the matter in Mork's proposal and in my Oskar at 14, at its most basic, is this: how would this interest affect Eli, even if Oskar does not have any interest in her sexually? I somehow can't imagine Eli being comfortable with change she can't really understand.