Has LTROI Changed Your Attitude About Love?

[Marcello S.]

I would like to start off by thanking everyone for their wornderful, eloquent, and touching insights on the subject of Love and Let the Right One In. I would like especially thank OUTSIDER & moonvibe34 you guys are my inspiration
Now I dont think I can match any of your arguments because I think none of them are wrong; they are all about the individual person and in the end its the individual that chooses how to love.

As for myself I think LtROI has tremendously changed my view on love.
The reason I believe this is prehaps because of my experiences, which as I mentioned are unique for each person. I saw the film when I was around 16-17 years old. I expected some "dumb" horror film and I came out totally suprised and pretty much in tears. Throughout the postings I have heard various religious remarks about god and love I believe this partly the reason the movie changed me and reinforced my values. I come from an all boy Catholic school, and I have seen love in various forms brotherly love, family love, homosexual/heterosexual love, personal love, companionate love, consumate love, infatous love, etc... At school they have taught me the commandments; love your neighbor etc... and sometimes taught me falcities such "appreciate gays as god's creation" but don't be as accepting when it comes to marriage or long term relationships. Although I have learned things from my school I will never forget like love those less fortunate and appreciate the fragility of life. LtROI showed me that forms of love through can happen anywhere and through anyone and differences such as sexuality and personality should never be an obstacle to love. Love is completely natural and should be accepted in any case. LtROI taught me to be more accepting and to keep an eye out for the subtle nuances of love. LtROI showed me various forms of love that I was not aware of and showed me that one does not have to be "pure" in the eyes of others to recieve love. The love that characters such as Eli showed to Oskar and even Hakan are needed in this world despite of their flaws and personalities issues. Most importantly LtROI taught me to stick with people who are kind and truly good at heart not the ones that seek to do evil and cause negativity. My friends at school shouldn't only be the "rich kids" or the "popular kids" but instead everyone especially those at the margins of our society. It does not matter how up or how low you are on the social ladder, when it comes to love everyone deserves it equally. Like others have posted I have also found beauty and thus love in things that I once found ugly. It taught me to appreciate my surroundings but also see my place in life, it taught me that everyone needs and deserves healing.

I need to be there for others mind, body, and spirit. Although I may be young and naive LtROI has helped me see what true love is about, sacrifices in life. You have to be assertive, smart, and be there for others. We live in a world where there are not that many good people left, that is why people like Eli and Oskar are needed, people who go beyond themselves and see world holistically both the good and bad.

[armyofdorkness]

Thank you, everyone, for your kind words. I'm ever feeling warmer and less cynical. It's kind of sad seeing the bitter me go, though. It was like a fun character.

You must infect her.

I showed her the movie. She did like it, but of course the "chemical reaction" wasn't there. She didn't get infected. But maybe there's still hope since I talked her into buying the book (she hasn't read it yet). What she really likes about LTROI is that I shared it with her in a romantic way. I even gave her my Cube. That melted her heart like, um, the acid melted Hakan's face. In the book. ::forced LTROI reference::

So now that your view of love has changed, has your view of LTROI also changed?

I think so. I don't regard the love story with quite the same awe and incredulity as I did. It lost a fantastical edge in that regard.

If she says you are her Edward, just nod your head and don't say anything else.

I've learned that. We've gotten into at least one heated discussion about me making fun of Edward. It bothers her.

I'm seeing "Eclipse" with her on July 3rd. Part of the agreement of me going is that I will keep my smart-ass mouth shut and not make jokes or even laugh. Wish me luck and I'll be sure to report afterward if I still have a relationship.

[cmfireflies]

c'mon it's Twilight. It's not like she demands fresh blood every couple of days. .

[moonvibe34]

As for myself I think LtROI has tremendously changed my view on love.
The reason I believe this is prehaps because of my experiences, which as I mentioned are unique for each person. I saw the film when I was around 16-17 years old. I expected some "dumb" horror film and I came out totally suprised and pretty much in tears. Throughout the postings I have heard various religious remarks about god and love I believe this partly the reason the movie changed me and reinforced my values. I come from an all boy Catholic school, and I have seen love in various forms brotherly love, family love, homosexual/heterosexual love, personal love, companionate love, consumate love, infatous love, etc... At school they have taught me the commandments; love your neighbor etc... and sometimes taught me falcities such "appreciate gays as god's creation" but don't be as accepting when it comes to marriage or long term relationships. Although I have learned things from my school I will never forget like love those less fortunate and appreciate the fragility of life. LtROI showed me that forms of love through can happen anywhere and through anyone and differences such as sexuality and personality should never be an obstacle to love. Love is completely natural and should be accepted in any case. LtROI taught me to be more accepting and to keep an eye out for the subtle nuances of love. LtROI showed me various forms of love that I was not aware of and showed me that one does not have to be "pure" in the eyes of others to recieve love. The love that characters such as Eli showed to Oskar and even Hakan are needed in this world despite of their flaws and personalities issues. Most importantly LtROI taught me to stick with people who are kind and truly good at heart not the ones that seek to do evil and cause negativity. My friends at school shouldn't only be the "rich kids" or the "popular kids" but instead everyone especially those at the margins of our society. It does not matter how up or how low you are on the social ladder, when it comes to love everyone deserves it equally. Like others have posted I have also found beauty and thus love in things that I once found ugly. It taught me to appreciate my surroundings but also see my place in life, it taught me that everyone needs and deserves healing.

Now that's inspiring.

[Angelalex242]

As with most, I can't say it changed my attitude about love. It did, however, make me wish I'd found a cute vampire girl when /I/ was 12 years old. I can think of more then a few classmates I'd tell her to eat!

And I was an outcast myself when I was 12, like Oskar. I wasn't bullied as much, but...yeah. Life wasn't fun in those days. I withdrew from the world, playing video games, letting it all pass me by.

Still, the selflessness of Eli, especially, impressed me. For a girl like that, I'd put up with some...eccentricities.

[N.R. Gasan]

What she really likes about LTROI is that I shared it with her in a romantic way. I even gave her my Cube. That melted her heart..."

Good for you, army. Hearing about situations like this in love relationships, it's like candy for the soul. :) There is just so much badness in the world. I'm happy for you. Truly. Every positive moment makes the world a little better.

[God of Vampires]

Marcello S. I am truly impressed, not many christians i have seen has been able to show this level of forgiveness, most get caught up in striving for impossible ideals, which in turn leads to bigotry and perfectionism. Not many understand that Jesus true teachings is not about judgement, but acceptance. This is why i am almost sure that the concept of hell is a lie. I just wish that more people were like you.

Has LTROI changed my attitude about love? Not as much changed as re changed. You see not to long ago, at the age of 15, I did fall in love with a girl. This did not however end as i had hoped and I soon discovered the two faced nature of love, as both a blessing and a curse. You see, I was rejected, for her to be with my greatest rival at the time, the goon of the schools must violent bully and probably the greatest pervert i ever seen. So off course, my very soul was damaged by this incident and led me to uncountable moments of depression and sadness . Untill I was no longer able to feel anything . Or so i thought.

Time did however repair most of my wounds, but I have remained a cold, calculative theorist, spending to much time thinking about the meaning of life then actually doing something. I still felt attraction towards women, but was never, hoping for anything more, I began to think love was nothing but an illusion, like so many others things in this world. The first time i saw LTROI was with class in the second year of "collage"( or whatever the English counterpart to the Swedish "gymnasium" is). The film was far better then i ever would have imagined (especially after seeing Twilight), and i soon decided to read the book, which i really enjoyed depite my classmates MAJOR spoilers . The truth of the matter is that i have never maneged to relate to any characters or persons as well as I related to Oskar and Eli. Strangely enough I related more to Eli then Oskar, maybe because I so long felt like i was "nothing" and have never in my life felt entirely human. Maybe because I am such vampire fanatic

I guess LTROI has changed my attitude towards love, mostly so that I have become more accepting towards all kinds of love, not just towards people of the opposite gender. It may also have lighted what may be decribed as a fire of hope, even through my brain still doubt that i will ever find my soul mate. This because i feel that I may be to strange for any person to fully understand.

[lombano]

Welcome, G of V!

I've had experiences analogous to what you describe (the emotional numbness, for example).

[danielma]

I've learned that. We've gotten into at least one heated discussion about me making fun of Edward. It bothers her.

I'm seeing "Eclipse" with her on July 3rd. Part of the agreement of me going is that I will keep my smart-ass mouth shut and not make jokes or even laugh. Wish me luck and I'll be sure to report afterward if I still have a relationship.

LOL you and me both, the GF is dragging me to it as well...fair trade...couldn't be as bad as the first two right? <yeah who am I kidding>