a warning to single people...

[thestich]

A glimpse of hope for all...

[DMt.]

Our relations with others mirror our relations with ourselves, I think.

So liking and accepting oneself, however impossible this may sometimes seem, is the primary necessity for happy relationships with others. Without this we are in the mire of projection and/or compensation; and then, as soon as we, or the other, don't fit the projection any more, the 'relationship' is in trouble.

[mackousko]

Our relations with others mirror our relations with ourselves, I think.

So liking and accepting oneself, however impossible this may sometimes seem, is the primary necessity for happy relationships with others. Without this we are in the mire of projection and/or compensation; and then, as soon as we, or the other, don't fit the projection any more, the 'relationship' is in trouble.

What? I should accept MACKOUSKO? No way! That's exactly what he is waiting for !!! Now he want acceptation. What would be next on wishlist? I presume happy life or something simmilar stupid. him!

[DMt.]

Hmmmm...well, I should thrash him regularly, in that case, if I were you.

[mackousko]

i'll give him money.

[gattoparde59]

What? I should accept MACKOUSKO? No way! That's exactly what he is waiting for !!! Now he want acceptation. What would be next on wishlist? I presume happy life or something simmilar stupid. Damn him!

[armyofdorkness]

Our relations with others mirror our relations with ourselves, I think.

So liking and accepting oneself, however impossible this may sometimes seem, is the primary necessity for happy relationships with others. Without this we are in the mire of projection and/or compensation; and then, as soon as we, or the other, don't fit the projection any more, the 'relationship' is in trouble.

I can't agree enough. I keep wanting to ask her "why do you love me?" as if she's putting some kind of charade. Some part of me still doesn't think I'm lovable, so part of me doesn't believe her.

"Because of who you are" she once told me.

It does feel good to hear that, but then part of me thinks that one point she'll get sick of me. She'll see the real me and stop loving me. She'll leave me, and all the wonderful things I've felt over the last 2 years will be proven wrong and I'll be back at square one.

I am so messed up inside. Why does she love me?

[DMt.]

Forgive me for labouring the obvious, army, but surely the question should really be -

if she can love and accept me, why can't I do the same for myself?

Repeat often - 'I accept myself with all my imperfections'.

's good for ya.

[TΛPETRVE]

As long as you do not languish in your ability to love and learn, there should be absolutely no reason for your partner to grow tired of you.